Adoption Journey Continues (everyday I grow a little more)

     I spoke with a teenage boy today who is angry. When we got to the bottom line I found he is adopted and he acts out against his AMom because he is angry that he is adopted. I told him that as a Birth Mother I want him to know that it is okay to be angry, and it is even okay to be angry at his Birth Mom, but in no way should he be angry with his adoptive mother for choosing him. This was a huge step for me to tell an adoptee that it is okay to be angry at a Birth Mother, and the truth is I was being honest. I truly feel that if Ashleigh is mad I pray that she isn't mad with her Mom or Dad. I feel it is okay that she is angry with me, and angry with her adoption, but I pray that she will always respect her parents and will ALWAYS believe and know that they LOVE her unconditionally. I pray that if she is or ever is in the future angry about the choices I made that she is angry towards the right person, ME!!!! It was amazing to have this talk today and it was amazing to hear myself say that it is okay to be angry with adoption, it is angry to be angry with the person that made the choice. It felt good to know that I could say that with no sadness and with total honesty..........what a beautiful day......